Let's Talk About SEX....Baby!

You meet someone. There’s an attraction. Phone numbers are exchanged, time is spent, and things evolve. Feelings have developed for a while now. All that’s left to do is…have sex right? Show him/her how much you like them? Or maybe it’s just been awhile and you need a little “sexual healing”.  WRONG! Let me explain why…

                 God said to wait til marriage. Period! Remember as a kid your parents would tell you to do something? If you were bold enough to ask why, unlike myself, they’d respond something like “Because I said so!” As harsh as that statement is, it’s almost the same thing with God. He’s not a dictator god in heaven with an iron fist “Do as I say or else!” On the contrary He’s more loving than we’ll ever know. You see, even now you can look back at what your parents said and realize they kept you from certain things all in your best interest. They knew what was best for you at the time, whether the knowledge came from life’s lessons or being older and smarter than you. We all were created by the Almighty Most Holy God, it’s safe to trust Him if He said to wait. For most people, unfortunately this reasoning isn’t good enough.

So what’s the big deal? Why can’t sex be just that? When a man and woman come together physically, they experience intimacy on a level that no other human relationship can match. Think of the person you’re possibly sleeping with right now, or the last person you slept with. That bond you have with that person is nothing like how you feel about anyone else; friends, siblings, and even parents. Genesis 2:24 says “A man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” This was the first marriage known to man. There was no ceremony and no proposal, only the physical act of the two, man and woman, becoming “one flesh”. People are so quick to say marriage is only a piece of paper and while that is important, it’s not what binds a marriage in God’s eyes. Every single person you’ve every laid down with, let fondle you, or had oral sex with is an act of marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 says “…It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with (or touch) a woman. But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband”. It is better for you to marry and have sex in the will of God, than to have casual sex. Would you be happy if you had to marry the last person you slept with? When the Lord said “they shall become one flesh” that’s literally what happens! The man enters the woman’s body becoming ONE FLESH! There’s just no bond like it. You are united with that person, forever, in every way humanly possible.

Sex isn’t only physical. All mankind were created differently than every other animal and beast on the planet. We were created in God’s image and likeness, tripartite, or having 3 parts, while still being one person: a body, spirit, and soul (“…may your spirit, soul, and body be kept intact and blameless at our Lord Jesus Christ’s coming” 1 Thessalonians 5:8). Because we’re all composed of a spirit and soul, physical intercourse cannot occur with our flesh without involving these two components.

Let me give a brief description of each. Your soul is composed of your mind (Lam. 3:20), your emotions (Song of Solomon 1:7), and your will (Job 7:15, 6:7). To put it simple your soul is you, without your physical body. Your spirit is the God-breathed eternal essence within you (Genesis 2:7). It’s the intangible part of you. It is your spirit that connects you with God. Some may be spiritually dead, if he/she hasn’t accepted Christ into their lives (Colossians 2:13): “And you, who were dead in your trespasses and the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made alive together with him, having forgiven us all our trespasses,”.  For clearer understanding, I may have to write an entire blog regarding that verse. Just know regardless if you’re spiritually dead or alive, you still have one. It is made up of your conscience, fellowship, and intuition.


If there is a natural body, there is also a spiritual body. – 1 Cor 15:44

When two bodies are joined in flesh, they are joined in spirit, as well as the soul. As stated above, it is the spirit that connects us to God. Picture this; you are having sex in a church pulpit. The place where the Pastor preaches the Word and not everyone is allowed to sit. Try to imagine yourself getting it on right there in the sanctuary. I don’t know about you but that’s an image I’d rather not think about. In God’s eyes that’s what occurs every single time you have any sexual contact with a person you have not married (officially). Sex is how two married people commune with one another and God at the same time. Granted your spirit isn’t in an actual church, but because our bodies are “God’s temple and His Spirit lives in us” 1 Corinthians 3: 16, makes the thought even more unbearable. Our bodies, both physical and spiritual, are not ours to do whatever pleases us at any given moment. We were created in God’s image and will return back to Him. We are not our own. Erwin Lutzer, senior Pastor of Moody Church, explains in his book Putting Your Past Behind You: "Sex creates a soul tie between two people, forming the most intimate of all human relationships...Once a man and woman have had sex together, nothing can be the same between them ever again."

                Intercourse has a God-given purpose, at the right time with the right person. Think logically for a second. Would that break-up have been so devastating if there was no sex involved?  God designed sex just for marriage so the unmarried folk wouldn’t have to deal with the pain or complications sex can bring into our lives. He knows and fully understands our desire for physical pleasure. He also knows the connection it brings and damage it can cause if done outside His will, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body” 1 Corinthians 6:18.

                My mom gave me a book called “60 Things God said about Sex” by Lester Sumrall when I left for college. There was one particular story my mind tends to go back to. He discusses how even the earliest societies, who’ve never heard the gospel of Christ have some form of sexual restrictions; showing we as a creation know, even if only on the smallest level, that sex is a serious and committed experience. While visiting Paraguay he attended a jungle wedding. It was a very simple wedding to say the least, but the country’s custom is what was interesting. The boy was not permitted to touch any girl, except the one he would marry. Sumrall goes on to discuss Muslim women, and how they must conceal their beauty from any man but her husband. And in China the parents of a small boy chose his bride while he was still a child, but he was not permitted to see her until their wedding day. Each village understands the charms of a woman are such a privilege, that only her husband should be the one to enjoy them.

                The Lord is powerful enough to control us, but gracious enough to grant us free will. It is your free will to choose to do with your body as you please. I can only pray you’ll come to understand the significance of choosing to become celibate. Or stay pure if you’ve never had any sexual contact. The sexual appetite is extremely powerful and difficult to overcome. Almost every person, male or female, who engages in sex very often with multiple partners are trying to fill a void. The void could be love, loneliness, depression, hurt, anger, or just plain hormones. If by now you haven’t received any gratification, I can assure you it will never happen. That void can only be filled by God. I urge you to trust Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. 1 Corinthians 6:13 says “‘Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food’ —and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” God has called us to honor our bodies that He Himself dwells in.

as it is my eager expectation and hope that I will not be at all ashamed, but that with full courage now as always Christ will be honored in my body, whether by life or by death. ²¹ For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. - Philippians 1:20-21 

 

With Love,

Karen

Jesus is Lord!

Hi there. My name is Karen *waves hi*. The Lord just blessed me with 28 years on the earth this past December. Born and raised on the south side of Chicago. I attended Illinois State University in Normal, IL for some time, lol. That lol is for those that know I never graduated. Eh….let’s just say I left for college with no clue on what I wanted to do and changed my major A LOT! Anyways, I lived down there almost 10 years and moved back a little over a year ago with the strongest desire to pursue my love of food. I love to cook and bake. Anything that has to do with being in a kitchen, I’m down. Don’t worry, you’ll soon hear of me in that areaJ. Along with that, the Lord had placed on my heart a stronger desire of Him.

That’s where this blog comes into play. You know how you get the best news you’ve ever heard and want to scream from a rooftop, partly from excitement but mostly to share with any and every one? Exactly how I feel. I can say I’ve known Jesus all my life, but I’d rather not claim that, now I have a better understanding of what it means to be a born again Christian. I’ll give you more details and my testimony later. Let’s cut to the chase; the first thing I’d like to share with you is best news you can ever hear.  Your reaction and the decision you make upon reading this message will determine your future. Not like in the next month, or a few years from now. I mean the most important future, something we’re all guaranteed, and that’s the future of your soul in eternity.

All I’d like to say is this: Jesus is Lord. Did you get that? Let me just reiterate: JESUS IS LORD! There’re quite a few responses to that statement. For now, let’s put them into two categories; wise and unwise. The wise responses would agree that Jesus is, in fact, Lord of all. On the other hand, those who either don’t believe that statement and/or those that don’t care would fall into the unwise category.

I will start with the wise category first. For as long as I remember being able to think for myself, I’ve always believed in God. Again I believed in God, not so much Jesus. I believed in heaven, but not hell. As a kid I’d sit on the porch and just stare at the sky for hours looking at the stars. I just knew there had to be something more to this life, something bigger and better than earth, and that death isn’t an eternal sleep.

I’d say the person I used to be is the general way people think. As long as you’re a ‘good person’, pray sometimes, and even attend church when you feel like it, heaven is pretty much a guarantee. That’s where WE ALL are wrong. We, the human race, have one thing in common; we’re just that, HUMAN. A mass murderer and single mother both are born of man and woman’s conception, blood running through their veins, heart rate 60-80 beats per minute, eat, sleep, and both breathe that good ol’ God given oxygen.

Let’s take that mass murderer and single mother into consideration for a moment. The mass murderer kills countless people, arrested and convicted to a lifetime in prison. While in prison, he happens to come upon a bible, starts reading it, and eventually accepts Jesus as his personal Savior. The single mother is now divorced from a man that used to abuse her. Overprotective with love for her children she is now celibate and helps women who suffer in the same circumstances she once did. She watches her children grow up, eventually is blessed with grandchildren and dies an old woman. She, however, never accepts Jesus into her heart. Of these two individuals, we would conclude the single mother would go to heaven and the murderer to hell, based on their lives.

As I stated earlier, we are all wrong. The murderer would indeed be welcomed into heaven. The mother unfortunately would spend eternity apart from God. Romans 3:10-12, “There is no one righteous, not even one; there is no one who understands; there is no one who seeks God. All have turned away; they have together become worthless; there is no one who does good, not even one.” Of course in our eyes, we see good people, bad people. We’ve categorized everyone according to how they treat us and what they portray themselves as. But God’s eyes are not as our eyes (Praise God!). What you must understand is that God is HOLY, perfection at its purest, knows all, sees all, and has all power within heaven, earth and everything in between. It was Him that gathered dust in His hand, breathed into the dust to form man, a living soul (Genesis 2:7). God is so holy in fact, He CANNOT be in the presence of anything unholy, “….Holy, holy, holy, is the name of the Lord of hosts…” (Isaiah 6:3). It’s IMPOSSIBLE for Him to be. So, the single mother, in God’s eyes is not holy, and would not be welcomed into His heavenly kingdom. Everything we do, whether good or bad, are tainted in a sense, because we all are sinners, “…all our righteous acts are like filthy rags…” (Isaiah 64:6). It’s in our nature to sin, to want to be apart from God. We’re so sinful in fact; you can sin and not even know it! That’s how natural it is. Things you do, say, and even think are unholy.

It all starts with Jesus. Jesus is God; the second of the Holy Trinity after God the Father. He’s the glue that binds us back to God our Father, the middle man, the mediator, the messenger. And without Him, there’d be no way for anyone to have access to God the Father - John 14:6 “Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me’ “. And Romans 3:22-25 “This righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference between Jew and Gentile (male or female, black or white, young or old, etc.,), for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. God presented Christ as a sacrifice of atonement, through the shedding of his blood—to be received by faith.” 

Now the reason why Mr. Murder would be welcomed into heaven is simply because he was made whole, or made holy, by God. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says “This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun”. In that one moment, everything changes. God grants us the choice to live for Him and accept Him into our lives. The ex-killer’s sin and all unrighteousness in that moment was nailed to the cross, as was Jesus. Through His resurrection is a new life given, by faith alone. Only Jesus, in all His perfection can make the unrighteous righteous. Does that make any sense? Wait. Let me try again. We’re born in sin. God sent Himself as Jesus, 100% God and 100% human; He became flesh like us, while still remaining to be God. When He gave His life on the cross, the sin and unrighteousness of ALL mankind, (that means from Adam and Eve until Christ’s return, the sins you did yesterday and will do 10 years from now) was put onto Him. The wrath of God that we so rightfully deserve was placed on God Himself through Jesus. It was in His resurrection that death was defeated so any man that just believes in Jesus and confesses that to Him will live forever with Him in all His Glory and Majesty.

Yeah, it’s really that simple. Is it sinking in yet? There is no one righteous, NO ONE; not you, me, a nun, the pope, the president, richest man in the world, the sweetest person in the world, your son or daughter, not your parents or grandparents, or your best friend.  The only thing that can make you righteous to spend eternity with the Creator is your own personal faith through Jesus Christ.

My prayer is that upon reading this message the Holy Spirit will touch your heart, and from there your curiosity will grow so that you eventually will come to know the one and only true God like I know Him today.

 

With Love,

Karen